Welcome to a journey through the universe of sexuality. In this new blog, we open the door to new experiences and desires, sharing a brief guide to sexual practices for you to explore and discover alongside us and your partner.
We will delve into various sexual practices, from the common to the more unconventional, providing techniques and practical tips. Get ready to discover, learn, and enjoy—because sexuality is a celebration of who we are. Let’s embark on this journey together!
Common and Less Common Sexual Practices
BDSM (Bondage, Discipline, Dominance, Submission, Sadism, Masochism)
BDSM encompasses a variety of practices and dynamics that can enrich individuals' sexual lives. In this section, we explore the fundamentals and how to engage in them safely and consensually.
Bondage
Bondage is the art of restraining a partner using ropes, ribbons, or handcuffs in various positions and settings, for aesthetic or sexual purposes. This practice has roots in the Japanese tradition of Shibari, which focuses on the artistry of knots and ropework.
While often associated with BDSM and dominance-submission dynamics, bondage can also be an aesthetic-erotic practice. It relates to the idea of captivity in a consensual and secure context, offering a unique experience of connection and trust between partners (see blog: Bondage - A New Experience).
There are different types and styles of bondage, each with its own approach and technique. Here are some of the most common ones:
Types and Styles of Bondage
Shibari (or Kinbaku)
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Origin: Japanese
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Definition: Shibari, also known as Kinbaku, is a form of bondage that emphasizes aesthetics and the art of tying ropes into intricate, visually appealing patterns on the body, often highlighting and enhancing its natural shape. This practice focuses on the visual beauty of rope patterns and the deep emotional connection that can develop between participants.
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Techniques: Shibari involves complex knots and patterns that require practice and precision. It is crucial to ensure that circulation and breathing are not restricted during the practice.
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Emotional Benefits: Shibari can strengthen trust and intimacy between partners, creating an emotionally enriching and deeply connected experience.
Luxury Bondage with Ribbons
In this style, soft and luxurious materials such as silk ribbons, high-quality cotton, or premium leather are used for restraint, emphasizing both aesthetics and comfort. It is ideal for those looking to provide a pleasurable and elegant sensory experience. Additionally, it is easy to apply and remove, making it an excellent option for beginners.
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Precautions: Avoid overly tight knots and ensure that the ribbons do not cut into the skin.
Bondage with Handcuffs or Shackles
This style involves the use of handcuffs, shackles made of metal or leather, tape, or other materials to restrain the wrists and ankles. Handcuffs can be applied and removed quickly, providing an intense feeling of restriction.
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Precautions: Ensure the use of handcuffs with quick-release mechanisms to guarantee safety.
Full-Body Bondage
This type of bondage can involve restraining a person's entire body, significantly limiting mobility. Ropes, nets, or even full-body restraint suits can be used to achieve this effect.
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Precautions: Full-body bondage requires careful planning and constant communication between partners to ensure comfort and safety. Always have a safe word or agreed-upon signal for release if needed.
Bondage with Adhesive Tape
This style utilizes specially designed bondage tape that does not damage the skin or leave residue. The technique involves wrapping parts of the body, such as wrists, ankles, or even the torso, ensuring a secure yet comfortable restraint.
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Precautions: Avoid wrapping too tightly and check that the tape does not cause skin irritation. Always test on a small area of the skin before full application to ensure safety and comfort.
Bondage with Scarf or Shawl
This technique involves using scarves, shawls, or other soft fabrics for restraint, adding an element of sensuality to the experience. The wrists and ankles can be tied, or the eyes covered to experiment with sensory deprivation.
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Precautions: Choose soft fabrics that do not irritate the skin, and ensure that knots are easy to untie to maintain safety.
Dominance and Submission
Dominance and submission (D/s) is an erotic and sexual dynamic based on power exchange, where partners assume complementary roles. One person takes control and authority in the relationship and sexual situations, while the other submits, allowing their partner to lead, follow orders, and make decisions.
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Roles: Dominant and submissive
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Communication: Key to this dynamic, as clear boundaries and a safe word must be established to ensure both partners feel safe and respected during the experience.
Sadomasochism
Sadomasochism is a sexual dynamic centered on deriving or providing pleasure through consensual pain. Common practices include whips, paddles, and clamps. To ensure safety and well-being, it is crucial to use proper techniques that minimize risks and create a consensual, pleasurable experience.
Sadomasochism often overlaps with dominance and submission, where the dominant applies these practices to the submissive, intensifying the power dynamic.
Tantric Sex
Tantric sex is a practice focused on deep emotional and physical connection between partners. It aims to enhance pleasure and intimacy, prolonging the sexual experience and increasing mutual awareness.
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Techniques:
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Synchronized breathing: Coordinating breath to harmonize energy and deepen connection.
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Sensual massage: Using slow, prolonged touch to awaken the senses and prepare the body for a more immersive experience.
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Couples meditation: Meditating together to strengthen emotional bonds and enhance presence during intimacy.
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Pegging
Pegging is a sexual practice where one partner, typically a woman in a heterosexual relationship, uses a strap-on dildo to penetrate her male partner anally. This practice expands pleasure and sexual exploration, challenging traditional roles and creating a unique intimate experience.
While pegging usually involves a woman penetrating a man, it can also be practiced between women using strap-on dildos, strapless strap-ons, or double-ended dildos. These toys allow for penetration without a harness, replicating the pegging dynamic.
Pegging is not limited to any gender combination; it can be practiced by people of any gender identity and sexual orientation using appropriate methods and toys. The key is consent, communication, and mutual enjoyment.
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How to introduce pegging into a relationship: Start with an open and honest conversation about desires, boundaries, and curiosity. Begin slowly with plenty of lubrication for a comfortable and enjoyable experience (see our article on choosing the right lubricant).
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Benefits and experiences: Pegging can strengthen trust and connection between partners, offer new sensations, and provide a power exchange that is exciting and liberating for both.
These are just a few of the many sexual practices you can explore in this vast universe. We hope you find them useful and feel encouraged to try something new based on your preferences. Until next time—may pleasure be with you!